Wake up, you are missing out on mental growth
When a problem arises we all secretly wish that a knight in shining armor will come to our rescue.
The same applies to men, but just not in a form of shining knight, well for most anyway…
Rather than seeking a solution, we would all rather there was an easy way out.
Unfortunately, it’s not the right way to go.
Choosing an easy way out of a problem actually, results into not learning from your mistakes, therefore they reoccur again.
Just think, how many times have you encountered the same problem to the point years have gone by and that problem still exists?
I can place my hand up and say I am guilty, the question is, can you?
Can you relate to this?
Despite getting a gut feeling of situations not being right, as humans, we tend to jump into the deep end.
Consciously without realising it, it’s the same scenario.
This could be in a form of being attracted to similar characteristics as your ex, right down to appearance?
Or maybe, you attract the same sort of friends and you are doing all the giving whilst they take?
Single parents worry about how they are going to have money to feed their children, clothe them?
Will the mortgage/rent be paid, can I afford this? I am over due with payments, risk eviction?
I could go on and on with examples, but I am confident you got the drift?
Despite knowing wrong from right, we humans just can’t resist laying out the red carpet, welcoming unnecessary dramas in.
Obviously, a lesson has not been learned otherwise, solutions would be placed, just think about it.
Whilst repeating the same actions that problem now has reoccurred way too many times, yet acknowledgment of this is still in denial.
We might speak about issues with close friends, spouse or family, but this doesn’t necessarily mean we take action.
I have lost count of a number of times, I have given a friend advice, only to find they do the opposite.
Saying that I to can confess being to the receiving end, been given advice and not taking it.
Is it human nature right?
My view in some cases, yes, but it’s also down to, have you learned from the first time around?
One thing for sure, some would disagree but for me sharing a problem with someone makes me worse
However taking action that’s another level!
Sadly though the majority of the time humans tend to repeat the same actions.
With only a few seeking solutions, preventing the same issue happening.
These individuals are ‘rescuing’ themselves for repeated unnecessary bullshit!
Whilst I prefer to pump iron in the gym or punch the fuck out of a boxing bag, others turn to substances.
Drug abuse and alcohol become an easy option for some leading to dependency to face their demons.
In blunt terms, they are off their faces the majority of times, oblivious to the accumulating issues they have not dealt with.
Resulting to developing an addictive personality, not realising they could channel their addictiveness to positiveness.
Others prefer to constantly whine and moan to people, simply love the soap drama.
Reality people just get bored eventually.
The point I am getting at is this, regardless of substances you take, whine all day to others, or worry.
Simply this is a strong sign that you have not dealt with the problem, adding you don’t believe you can resolve it.
Just think about it for a minute
You’re seeking answers from other people or substances to ease the pain, right down to taking it away.
You have stressed yourself worrying about money, now you have added health issues and have aged.
Level reach, you have become completely reliant on people and substances to solving your problem.
You have worried now for so many years, that you have reached a point that it’s the only thing to do.
But that problem is still there, years have gone by and you are still at square one where you started.
It’s obvious you haven’t faced your challenges and don’t believe you can.
You need to realise this
Wonderful if you have good friends that you can talk to, but think of it like this.
If you are constantly whining every time you see your friend with the same bullshit, eventually they will get sick of it.
A little reminder, those people you constantly whine to may have bigger issues than yours and also need guidance.
On the other hand, you are giving yourself health issues by abusing it with substances.
For some who are parents, just think of the example you are setting for your children.
Let me blunt, ‘kids just avoid issues don’t face it, you too can grow up allowing fear to consume you’.
Surely you don’t want that for your children?
Real life story made into a film
For those that worry about money issues, a little reminder of real life story made into a film of a tale of rags to riches.
In my mind, the film “The pursuit of happiness” springs to mind.
If you haven’t seen it, I will tell you a little about it hopefully you will get the chance to view it?
Life is a struggle for single father Chris Gardner (Will Smith).
Evicted from their apartment, he and his young son (Jaden Christopher Syre Smith) find themselves alone with no place to go.
Even though Chris eventually lands a job as an intern at a prestigious brokerage firm
The position pays no money. The pair must live in shelters and endure many hardships.
Chris refuses to give in to despair as he struggles to create a better life for himself and his son.
In the end, he is offered a permanent position at the brokerage firm he was working for, for free.
It leads to a well-paid job offering promotion, leading to traveling around the world telling his story.
I can just imagine some people reaction reading this, you’re talking bollocks’
Am I really?
If you are blessed to have legs and arms, able to move about without anyone’s assistance.
Have no life threatening illness and able to correct yourself and better ‘You’.
Exactly what are you complaining about?
So what do you do?
Good question and one that comes with a blunt response, rescue yourself.
When someone has an addiction they seek the relevant help to get better, some confide in a professional to realise their flaws.
Understanding your weaknesses is the ultimate grounding to seeking a solution.
Simply by rescuing yourself, you understand that you have needs that need addressing.
This start from loving oneself.
Loving you and attending to your needs is not an act of selfishness, but the opposite.
You realise if you are not good to you then you are not good to no one else.
This took me a long time to realise this, but when I did I could see the logic and it was plain and clear.
I know if I don’t train for a while I can be an utter bitch if provoked, so I know it’s in my best interest to train.
What might work for me does not necessarily mean it will work for the next person.
But it’s all about doing the things you enjoy, the bonus of it, it leads to a self-discovery road.
Rescuing you is realising and acknowledging that inner voice inside you that’s trying to guide you.
We all have it in us, it’s just realising that voice speaks and speaks the truth because it wants the best for you.
Demons are not welcoming, nor entertaining them is productive either, but can be the easy option.
This only gives you two choices being:
- 1- You allow your demons to consume you and live your life in fears?
- 2- Rescue you, by acknowledging your weakness and turning them into strengths?
Surprise yourself and take that one step, just remember that could lead to millions of more steps.
Now have a think about that and give yourself a break, will you rescue ‘YOU”?